The 7 Antidotes to Giving Up in Business For Professionals, Coaches, and Entrepreneurs
People leaving their struggling businesses in favor of the 'safety' of a full-time job.
Network group colleagues stop coming to the group meetings.
Some years ago, I watched colleagues of mine in a leadership bootcamp training program dropping out like flies as soon as the work got harder, and the going got rougher.
When I launched my business in 1999, I had slow but steady increases.
Then 9/11 happened and the world, and my business, came to a screeching halt.
For a long while, I just stayed the course.
But by 2004 I, too, was considering throwing in the towel.
Deep in my heart, I knew if I could ride things out just a little longer, I would turn the corner.
All around me people were telling me to be realistic and get a job.
And then, as if someone turned a light switch on, all of the seeds I had been sowing for months starting cropping up and my business started booming.
It has flourished ever since.
Lately I've been thinking about what makes some people give up and some people have staying power.
Is there any way we can develop new muscle for overcoming what I call 'Being Stopped Syndrome'? Generally, people give up because they don't want to fail.
Ironic, isn't it? Doesn't giving up on yourself or a goal give you a feeling of failure anyway? Let's break down what's really happening into the phases of being stopped, leading people to giving up: 1.
Action/Decision - you take some new action or make a decision 2.
Relief/Excitement - this provides relief or excitement - You look forward to the new.
Doubt - the relief or excitement is short-lived.
Doubt for your decision or about your action sets in.
Fear/Overwhelm - Doubt is immediately followed by fear or a feeling of being overwhelmed.
Remorse/Regret - You begin to regret your choice or action.
(This is what is commonly known as "buyers remorse.
Projecting Blame - You immediately start seeking who you might blame for the feeling of remorse.
You see it as a force outside of yourself.
Your partner was a bad guy anyway, your boss never told you what he/she really expected, etc.
Seeking Shelter/Safety - Here's where you want to pull back or go back to old familiar ways.
You want to stay in your current job vs.
making a change to one with greater potential.
Relief - You feel a short-lived sense of relief.
Lowered self-esteem - Right below relief is an experience of lowered self-esteem because you have not made a decision from a powerful stance but from a fearful one.
We all have wanted to give up at some point in our business life and we've gone through each of these phases.
Guess what - so have your clients.
Here's how you can stop the syndrome (and set a great example for your clients too) through the 7 Antidotes to Giving Up: 1.
Accepting Full Responsibility - for your situation and for your results.
Gives you a huge sense of power.
Adopting A Can Do Mindset - Listen to your language.
Are you telling yourself it can be done, or it can't? Either way you'll be right.
Trusting - In yourself and your ability to generate the right results.
Seeking Support - Hang around with supportive people, hang with the winners.
Positive People, Positive Life - self explanatory.
Daily Consistent Actions - Put the right structures, right routines in place and adhere to them as if they are the law - your law.
Focus on your WHY - By focusing on your real purpose, why you took the action, you will be motivated to stick to it.
In the end, it's pretty simple.
Winston Churchill pegged it oh so well: Never, Never, Never, Never, Never, Never Give Up